I was in contact with an old friend yesterday trying to meet with him for lunch or something - but all this person wants to do is give me instruction, and I don't need instruction from him because he has no authority over me, he's just a friend. It was hard disagreeing with him but I did what God led me to do. I want to do what God calles me to do, but I don't want to hurt my friend. I guess this is part of the hard part of being obedient to God - trying to reach out to someone in love and being rejected and disfellowshipped. If you reach out in love, extending the olive branch, you are doing the right thing.
posted by Keith at 2:23 PM
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I wish things had gone better for you... but it makes me think about people who God put into my life for a season. Those relationships were not meant to carry on but were only for a specific period of time. Like you I have tried in the past to re-kindle a few of these and have learned that there is a time and a season for some things.
Anywhoo... I appreciate the honesty you share in your blog... it often spurs thought.
Take care,
The Commander
My thought? Sugar works even for Papa. Smile, listen, be you. If you are someone worth listening to, he will, given time.
Hey Lonnie, I understand what you're saying. But why does it have to hurt and piss me off? I know, let it go, the season's over. Thanks for your thoughts and your words.
Dave,
You're a very wise man my friend. Are you sure you're not a closet Christian? Just a joke dude. There's a saying in AA, try to make amends to everyone you've harmed unless it would hurt them to do so. I really thought time would heal this wound, but apparently it did not. Thanks for your thoughts Dave. It's always a pleasure to hear from you.
Peace!
Sorry things went that way bro. You know, you never know what life will bring. But God is in control, and He is good...Keep seeking Him...
Oh yeah, and is Friday still good for lunch man?
Sorry I never replyed to that email, I meant to but I've been pretty busy.
Bryant,
Thanks for your words brother. You are wise beyond your years. Friday will be great. Shoot me en email and let me know what time to pick you up. I emailed you to asking you what time.
Peace!
You know... I'm not sure why it has to hurt and piss you off... my guess is that it has something to do with how God wired us for relationship... both with Him and with each other. Difficult part is that we live in a fallen world where things a broken and just don't work like they should. This is a place where people have the freedom to hurt you and still walk away feeling good about what they said or did, because in their broken mind it seemed like the right thing to do (note: since I don't know the specifics about this situation... this is a general and not specific comment... end of disclaimer).
Grace comes in a variety of colors and flavors and in this case the grace might be a little bitter to choke down and that bitterness may come in the act of letting go.
I have a good friend who used to be my boss and sometimes when we talk he falls back into the role of boss and leaves behind the role of friend. This is a little tough because he is no longer my boss and does not have any authority over me (in the sense that I have to submit to his authority in order for him to have any... you know what I mean). So sometimes I think the roles that people play in our lives affects the relationships that we can have with them... that may actually be what is happening here.... just a thought.
Just keep on loving God and other people and you will survive this short walk in the valley.
Love you man!
The Commander
Hey Lonnie,
That's it brother. I know I have to let it go. It's just hurting so much to do so. There's a lot more to the story and I can't get into it on a blog but I will gladly share with you. So we need to get together for lunch or something soon.
Peace!
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