Living For the Approval of Others (Wayne Jacobsen and Dave Coleman)

"You're so busy seeking everyone's approval around you, that you don't realize you already have his."
"He'll make the choice clear to you if you don't complicate it with any attempts to protect yourself - not to keep your job, not to be liked by others, not ev
"As long as you need other people to approve of what you're doing, you are owned by anyone willing to lie about you."
"It's a lot easier for you to get out of the system than it is to get the system out of you. You can play the game from inside or outside. The approval you felt then came from the same source as the shame you feel now. That's why it hurts so much when you hear the rumors or watch old friends turn away embarrassed. They're not bad people just brothers and sisters lost in something that is not as godly as they think it is."
"You can't love what you're competing against and if you're keeping score you can be sure you're competing."