Snippets from the AWESOME book Bo's Cafe - Will Grace Finally Win?
“Grace is a gift only the nonreligious can accept. They’re the only ones who can get it. Religious folks see grace as soft. So they keep trying to manage their junk with their own willpower and tenacity. Nothing defines religion quite as well as a bunch of people trying to do impossible tasks with limited power while bluffing to themselves that it’s working.” (p.89).
“You know what shame does? It takes a particular violation or several violations from your past, something that really got to you, and convinces you felt like in that violation is who you’ll always be, for the rest of your life. Sad,huh? — We don’t want others to see us for the person the lie has told us we are. We almost unconsciously create a lie to protect us from the lie. Bad combination.” (pp.146-147).
My thoughts... Don't let church and religious folks bog you down with shame, guilt, obligation and rules. Accept God's Grace right where you are. If you've been wounded by church folk...move on and live in the Freedom that is God's Grace.